Thanks for the support, folks. My personal philosophy is that you create a positive energy from within, whatever the world challenges. There has never been an "ideal" time, the present is always the most important time in history because it is the time when one can act. One can write letters, protest, or just proclaim your truth here, on the internet. This may require bravery.
I am pleased to hear that Michael received many PM's about Carruther's objectionable post that it was so great to screw a "girl" who's ass fit in the palm of his hand (really--a three-year old?). Michael defended him and removed the comment due to PMs which agreed with me. Nevertheless, he stuck to his guns that that comment was just humor. Next a poster from someone who would seek a place in America which would allow him to marry a sixteen year old. Michael agreed with that joke, too. Next, Michael posted a list of violent crimes which he believes are perfectly ok topics for humor if handled "correctly." Here is his post:
"second, my point in posting the bill hicks video was to illustrate the fact that things are sometimes funny, despite how "off limits" or socially unacceptable they are to you personally. i can't (and won't) control what makes me laugh. when i'm hearing/reading/watching comedy, i don't do so through the prism of anything being off limits. i think people who DO limit their humor exposure in that fashion aren't fun or funny people, despite how they might like to see themselves.
also on the list of subjects that can be funny if delivered smartly:
One poster PMd me asking what pink socking was. That's a hate crime, folks, where a bunch of bullies put dirt in socks and wait in the shower for their gay victim. When the boy comes in they beat him bloody, hence turning the sock "pink" --water+blood, get it?
Michael invited me to leave this forum; he thinks it might not be right for me. As he stated above, I am not fun or funny because I don't like this kind of humor. It makes violence a sick joke. I have been thinking it over and considering that he may have a point. This forum has been a big part of my life and has helped me through some rough spots, and I have made some "real" friends here. This is why I have hesitated, also because I wanted to calm down. Honestly, I suspect Michael is going through a rough time with Nabila gone and his back hurting. And he just moved, so you know he's still living among boxes. That can't be fun.
This is the last straw for me, folks. I realize everybody is entitled to his own opinion and I have supported, respected and tried to understand Michael Vandeven's positions. But the combination of him defending Carruthers while believing sexual predators should be killed and him listing (and arranging prettily!) these "appropriate" topics for humor. No, and I don't want to support the site of someone that believes this. Nothing personal, I just have to stand by my own convictions.
Michael doesn't want people to say goodbye, he thinks they should just quit if they don't like CoastGab. I think freedom of speech includes the right to say why you are leaving. I considered CoastGab my community--I've been a daily poster and I want to say goodbye, share my thoughts, and thanks for all the laughs.
PS. If you'd like to stay in touch, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org